we all have been there. well most of us anyway. if you're a victim of a recent and heart-breaking break-up, you should consider these points. i am not Dr. Love or Love Guru but here's what i think might be good to consider.
1. it's always u. if not, they wouldn't break up, now would they? so don't listen to this age old crap of "it's not u..it's me. i am the one wrong here.. yada yada yada" from everyone who breaks up with you. tell them to cut the crap and come up with a better excuse!
2. it's their loss that they lost u. not the other way around. most prolly they'll realize what they have lost when someone gives them a dose of their own heart-breaking medicine.
3. never ask for a second chance. makes u look stupid in front of them. [some might say that you don't care about the relationship much. this is the point where u remind s/he who was breaking up with whom] if they wanted to give a second chance, they would tell so and wouldn't bring up the subject of breaking up.
4. do NOT call any of their friends right away [or at anytime] and BEG them to ask the guy/gal not to do this n that n blah n blah. it's not gonna have much effect on the person who broke up with you. [if it does, why the hell were u with a guy/gal who needs his friends to think good for him all the time in the first place?]
5. do not push yourself into another relationship within 24 hours [i recommend a week or two at least] after a break-up. it's possible that you might not be in your right mind to make such a important decision. which might create problems in future. getting under another doesn't really help u get over one all the time, u know?
1. it's always u. if not, they wouldn't break up, now would they? so don't listen to this age old crap of "it's not u..it's me. i am the one wrong here.. yada yada yada" from everyone who breaks up with you. tell them to cut the crap and come up with a better excuse!
2. it's their loss that they lost u. not the other way around. most prolly they'll realize what they have lost when someone gives them a dose of their own heart-breaking medicine.
3. never ask for a second chance. makes u look stupid in front of them. [some might say that you don't care about the relationship much. this is the point where u remind s/he who was breaking up with whom] if they wanted to give a second chance, they would tell so and wouldn't bring up the subject of breaking up.
4. do NOT call any of their friends right away [or at anytime] and BEG them to ask the guy/gal not to do this n that n blah n blah. it's not gonna have much effect on the person who broke up with you. [if it does, why the hell were u with a guy/gal who needs his friends to think good for him all the time in the first place?]
5. do not push yourself into another relationship within 24 hours [i recommend a week or two at least] after a break-up. it's possible that you might not be in your right mind to make such a important decision. which might create problems in future. getting under another doesn't really help u get over one all the time, u know?
16 backtalk[s]:
i choose break-up as a chance to become friends! thou i have hurt some unintentionally, all my ex's are dear friends... come on, there are enough people on this planet not to worry about breakups! shit happens! or am i the only one who admit this?
most people just cannot accept the fact that they are being dumped
thats why people come up with stoopid excuses like the, its not you its me talk
e heyo loabi nuviyas, hiy halaaku vaane rulhi veema
hehe
keeh kuraany
hope your post helps some people who need this advice!
@de irresistible i agree with u to a extent.
@.mini i meant that the people who breaks up usually gives this excuse to break up. they go like "look, it's not you. it's me. i am a bad person. this has nothing to do with you" and yada yada.. i really think they need to find some new excuses...no?
hehehe. lol. this is by far the best post ive seen from u and i think this can be rated top 5 for the best advice uve given in the last what.....3yrs that ive known u. heheh. obinoavey. but the problem is....ppl know these stuff but jes cant seem to follow ;)
Nice tips.
I suppose one must realize when dumped, that there are more then one flavor of ice-cream in this world. Like Joey from F.R.I.E.N.D.S puts it:
"There's Rocky Road, and Cookie Dough, and Bing! Cherry Vanilla. You could get 'em with Jimmies, or nuts, or whipped cream! This is the best thing that ever happened to you! ...Welcome back to the world! Grab a spoon!" ;)
@kaiza thanks..i think! =P hehe.. yeah i agree. we all know it, but rarely anyone of us are able to implement it eh?
@fish thanks. yep, there definitely is a lot more than flavors than we think. *wink*
good one fish. lol. joey dho?heheh
Being mentally unstable is a great help in these kind of situations. :D
@shadow hehehe yeah that's one way of doing it too.. but then again, being mentally unstable is more often than not what drives us to do these stupid stuff..no?
good points uve got there. ur a love guru after all i guess. hehe..
oh yeah, and do NOT apologize for nething after the break up. it makes it look like its all ur fault.
there, one more point ^.^
new excuses aren't good enough kanneynge ennu
hehe
@shweetikle *lol* nope, i am not. and yes, that's one more point too! =]
@.mini and that excuse is good enough? don't u think they are getting a bit TOO common n old? hehe
2. it's their loss that they lost u.
umm. not always. Sometimes its your problem like being too possessive - not respecting his/her space etc. You need to identify the person at fault and if you are the one then correct yourself and if not - well dont give a crap becoz then it's their loss that they lost u.
neat advice.
@shafee thanks
Good words.
i also agree to what "de Irresistible" said.. to some extend... i don't believe that we have to be enemies after a break up.. in fact i want to be friends since i care about them.. but it depends on the other person, if she (or he :P) doesn't want to.. that's not possible dho
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